Leave the Masculine Energy for Career
When I give this advice, I speak from my old self. I used to date with the purpose of finding the one.
Let me tell you that if you date with this mindset and energy, you will just repel the one and will date endlessly.
If you treat potential dates like an interview, then you will understand what I mean.
Instead of directing back-to-back questions at the person you’re chatting with, try being more flirty and playful.
Show your true self and be lighthearted about the whole process.
I used to take dating and relationships so seriously that I would not be open to connecting or showing my vulnerable side. Then I learned that dating in this way actually pushes away my person or any compatible dates.
Don’t Focus on Meeting the One
Most of us date because we’re looking for that one person to spend the rest of our lives with or at least to have a long-term relationship with.
Now that you’re clear about your goal, detach from it and shift your mindset.
What you want to focus on instead is having a fun and enjoyable dating experience.
And you do that by being in your feminine and playful energy and by trusting the manifestation process.
If you live from a mostly masculine energy, I suggest that you go through this blog post to tune into your feminine side.
Basically, you want to stop focusing on the outcome and tune into how you feel when you’re in that person’s presence? how do you feel after chatting or speaking to them? do you feel safe?
You can also journal after your date with how you feel and this can really help you make good decisions when dating.
Look at each encounter as a way to get to know someone new and learn about their life. It’s a cool way to look at dating!
Whatever you do, don’t take dating seriously because this only pushes your goal away from you.
Maybe you can make new friends or expand your social network? maybe the person will share something interesting with you that will make your life easier or better.
Just be open, be curious and have fun in the process of looking for your person.
Do you date from a place of being too focused on finding the one? or do you take things easy and lean into curiosity and playfulness?
Let me know in the comments!
Love,
Leela
