So much is shifting and transforming these days. Mercury retrograde started and we’re about to see more powerful shifts.
Today’s tip is more of a self-care one but it’s totally related to dating.
You probably heard it many times. You must love and cherish yourself first. But today, I’ll explain this tip from a new perspective.
In a previous Dating Sunday blog post, I explained how setting high standards and committing to them when dating also means less matches.
I also shared how this is actually a good thing. Because your goal is to clear the cache and create space for the right, high-quality men to show up in your life.
Today, let me share another practical tip related to clearing the cache and being in that space of allowing.
What to do in the Space of Allowing
When manifesting a partner, you will start getting back-to-back test about your desire.
For example, you will get matches that could be close to your ideal partner, but not exactly.
Since dating is a step of manifesting a partner, this sorting of profiles and tests from the Universe is inevitable.
I don’t agree with those who say that you can manifest without dating. Although it’s possible, I’m not a fan of this approach.
I believe that you should go through all of the steps for any manifestation process.
Plus, because I’m manifesting a street-smart person, I want someone who’s also investing in dating. I don’t want to be with someone who’s focused on one area of their life only. That’s not what Soul Collective coaching is about.
You can read that blog post here.
So now you’re invested in dating and you’re sorting through profiles that aren’t a match to your desire. Because you have a deep-rooted knowing that your person is out there.
What do you do when there are no matches and you’re sitting in the void?
Instead of being impatient about your manifestation and feeling desperate – which repels your person from coming to you – spend this time in focusing on you.
Practical Tip – Focus on you Instead
When in that stage of not dating anyone – because you’re not settling and you’re not doubting the manifestation process – you want to focus on yourself.
Whether this means working with a certified coach to help you get through some limiting beliefs, investing in self-care or setting boundaries with toxic friends and family members.
I guess it all depends on your spiritual path and where you are in your journey.
I personally am in the last manifestation stage. I’m investing in self-care and in my physical looks.
This is the last stage of manifesting because I spend the past five years doing the deep inner work and I wasn’t paying much attention to my outside looks.
I’m planning on getting a Kerastraight treatment tomorrow, which I’m very excited about!
I also just ordered some supplements to help with my skin and hair and I’m excited to try those.
There are so many things to do and so many creative ways to focus on yourself, while sorting through profiles and enjoying the manifestation process!
What stage of soulmate manifestation are you at now? let me know what you’re struggling with the most when it comes to manifesting a partner!